I'm a headstrong person, I don't take crap. So when people try to manipulate MrC (my husband to-be) to try to defy me, I get angry.
We've previously told the in-laws that we haven't decided if children will be at the wedding. MrC wants them there but I don't, we haven't come to an agreement yet.
We've also said that we won't invite anyone the other doesn't know (exceptions for out-of-state guests). And only inviting the cousins we speak too. We both have big italian families so weddings can easily be 250pax.
Today I went to a Bridal Expo in my hometown with KDB, whom is a very dear friend, to get ideas for both of our weddings (both getting married and being each others bridesmaids is a very special time that not many people get a chance to have!). The expo was great, we both got some cool ideas and discussed a few things, during the expo MrC asks me the name of a particular venue we had in mind, I text it to him thinking that he is just mentioning it to his Mum.
I get back to his parents house and he mentions the venue again, asks the capacity and mentions that we'll need to invite 150ppl to our wedding, not 120! And he also states that we're getting a babysitter for all the kids "Including Cousins baby, this child, this persons child" I just said "We haven't discussed that yet" and left the room as my rage was building.
His Mum said that they'll pay for the extra guests, not to worry about it. Oh, fantastic. Cus the money was what I was worried about, not the fact that you want me to have strangers at my wedding just because 'its tradition'.
MrC and I had also said time and time again, if we do decide to have kids, it will just be nieces and nephews, not everybodys child.
I feel like I give him an inch and he takes a mile.
I told him we WILL NOT be having people at the wedding that the other doesn't know, I don't care if he was invited to all of their weddings, in the 3 years of us dating I've never met them. He doesn't even have the extra guests on facebook or in his phone so they aren't close.
After about 15 minutes of fighting I was over it, so I calmly told him that our wedding is about us, not about our parents. His mother waited until I was out of the house to convince him to invite everyone and have kids, to try to bully me into giving in. That will NOT happen. We will do what we want as a couple for our day, not what is expected of us from family.
I don't want them to help pay for the wedding if it comes with conditions on the money.
MrC agreed that I was right, that his Mum was sneaky in going behind my back to talk to him without me there. If it was up to them we'd be getting married in a church in my hometown. NOT GOING TO HAPPEN.
All I have to say is: Bring it on. The more you try to push your son into agreeing with you, the more I will point out how you manipulate his decisions and he will agree with me, seeing as I'm his Wife-to-be.
I wish his family could just be happy with us instead of trying to push their agendas every time I turn my back.
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